Friday, May 25, 2007


Tempers flare every now and then. At times we can control it and at times when we loose it, then it becomes a problem. Friendships can be broken, relationships can be torn apart and at times in extreme circumstances - lives can also be taken. I am serious! Just this week, I was unfortunate to be in the presence of 2 huge fights. One was at a restaurant in PJ, where the owner was badly beaten up by 4-5 customers and the other was in this food court in Subang - I was there watching the AC Milan v Liverpool game. When the game was over, a fight just started. Some Liverpool fans were beating the shit out of a man (who looks about 45 years old). According to one of the stall peddlers, this man teased this group of boys about Liverpool's loss. And this man was left bleeding all over his head as they knocked him around with those metal / wooden chairs. It is is a pity that such small issues can end up in huge fights.

Anyway, I was reading this story yesterday. I felt the need to share it with all of you as it involves having a control of our temper and to manage our anger. I do not agree that one cannot control ones' temper. If you want to, you can! Think of all the consequences before doing anything drastic. The story below will tell you why.

Holes In The Fence

There was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to hammer a nail in the back wooden fence. The first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Then it gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, you leave scars just like as in this fence.”

The uncontrolled tongues can do terrible damage. A few words spoken in anger can destroy a relationship that took years to build. Words are like fire – can neither control nor reverse the damage they can do.

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